Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O.Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

Dear Abby gives advice to a mother who repeatedly gets called by doctors offices for her kids appointments — even when her husband is listed as the primary contact.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069. ** ** **

My husband and I have four kids, so there are many appointments to make and keep. We both have full-time jobs, so we split up the responsibilities by category; I get the pediatrician visits, and he does orthodontist and dentist.

We’ve even had them put notes in the kids’ records, but they still call me first. Do you have suggestions about how to overcome this bias (that doesn’t include me taking over the whole family calendar)?

We have explained multiple times that he is the person they need to talk to, and that I am not involved in these appointments.

The dentist is particularly bad. They have my husband listed as the main contact. He’s the one who makes all the appointments and takes the kids. My name is listed only as an emergency contact — but they still call me with all the reminders and schedule changes.

They've done everything they can to make these offices understand her husband handles these visits, but they're ignored.