Dear Grateful: Every time I write about thank-you notes in this column, I open up a tempest in a tea kettle in the responses. Well, call me a sachet of Earl Grey because I’m jumping in again.

She didn’t want her creepy friend at her pajama party, so she lied to him. Is she a terrible person? Dear Eric: I frequently have gatherings at my house, most recently debate-watch parties. Close friends gather,

A had a pajama party to watch a recent political debate. When a male friend asked what I was doing for the event, I lied so I wouldn’t have to invite him. Was that wrong of me?